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"I'm much better now..."

OK, I guess I'm over it. The despair thing. It was the result of a call back after an interview. They liked me, and thought I interviewed well, blah, blah, blah, but they were going to go with another candidate, blah, blah, blah. I would have never known they were looking for a certain qualification, that I don't have, if they hadn't told me - it wasn't in the posting, it didn't come out in the interview, nothing. Maybe that was just a ruse for not picking me for another reason. Blah, blah, blah.

For a while after, I was on the verge of tears, terrified, and ready to pummel the next moron to enter my space. That's a dangerous combination, and one I've been trying my best to avoid. Then, bad news comes by and THWAK, there I go again. Loosing something I never had in the first place, now that's something to ooze about. I really am a malcontent waiting to happen sometimes. You'd think I'd learn. We should all be glad I resisted blogging during that time.

Time, family, friends, perspective, and trust all helped ease the pain. Laughing, refocusing, and busy work helped too.

Experiences like this one just reaffirm that I'm not perfect. Thank goodness... I was just starting to believe that one again.

More on the other side.

Temporary

You'll just have to forgive me this temporary lapse into a superficially deep and brilliantly dark despair.

Weeds

Why is it that the strongest, most healthy, resiliant plants in my yard are weeds?

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Opportunities Missed

"A clear conscience is a soft pillow." - German Proverb
"An uneasy conscience is a hair in the mouth." - Mark Twain

I was recently told by a friend of mine, who happens to also read this blog, that I have 'such a strong voice for someone so laid back'. I take that as a compliment I suppose, but also as a reminder that I don't speak my mind or spout my opinion in person nearly the same way as in this blog. Maybe that's a good thing, as I find myself really letting loose here and writing some of the things I wish I'd said. I'm actually proud of my self-editing skills, but there are times I definitely squelch that 'strong voice' so as not to offend - often walking away muttering.

I'm also reminded of the opportunities missed. To set someone straight. To share some truth... or Truth. To encourage. To verbally spank. Not that I'm the origination of everything right or true - seldom is that the case really, especially when it's based on my mortal man - but I do have insights, experiences, and gospel to share. I'm not one to shove it down a person's throat - in fact I do all that I can not to, after all, what good would that be? - but I fear that I've over reacted (or under reacted) and missed out on opportunities by saying nothing at all.

Oh to muster the courage to say the right thing, in the right way, at the right time.

"Kermit the Frog here, reporting to you from..."

Technology is great. I'm blogging from the bathroom! WiFi style.

Does that make me cool, or extremely sad. Maybe just sick. You decide. I'm going to finish business and get home, it's way too nice of a day to be inside, even if I can blog while going to the little boys room.

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Free Will

"Choosing not to make a choice is still making a choice."

Whether we like it or not, we have a choice to make.

To do the right thing...
no matter how hard and inconvenient, no matter what wrong we've done before and irregardless of the measurable personal gain or prestige...

or to do the wrong thing...
most times easy, often more popular, usually perceived as acceptable but always cowardly.

There are not as many shades of gray as we may want to believe, if there are any at all.

Morals should not take vacations or be shelved. They ought not be things we put on when they serve us and take off when they don't serve our want. Morals should be what they are: standards of behavior regarding right and wrong. The standard is the standard, it's not wishy washy, it's not subject to change based on time, mood, happenstance, or situation. To those who say that there are no moral absolutes, I'd like to remind them that they just proved the point - saying that there are none, is one. Besides the fact that they are wrong, they cannot prove their statement and actually need to count on the very fact they want to wish away. Right and wrong cannot be based on personally held positions, else the child molesters, liars, murderers, rapists, adulterators and cheaters would all be right, as long as they personally held their actions or beliefs to be right.

Doing nothing, is doing something - far better then to choose to do the right thing.

"Therefore, to one who knows the right thing to do and does not do it, to him it is sin." James 4:17

Stop!

These husbands have to stop abusing and killing their wives.
These fathers have to stop abusing and killing their children.
This evil and cowardice has simply got to stop.

Case in Point

Ok.. I'm back, having dealt with that something... again...

Case in point, the unhappy, faithless, hopeless, aimless, uncommitted, indecisive, tactless, unethical, emotionless throng that ebbs and flows with the phases of the moon or their own lackluster life. They count on others to make them happy rather than just deciding to be happy and doing the things that it takes to remain that way. Their faith is upon the things or people in this life that ought not have faith placed upon them. They have nothing on which to fix their hope. Their compass, moral and otherwise, is defective. They refuse to commit and are unable to make a decision because of the specially designed bones in their rear that allow them to so easily sit on the fence. They have no social grace because they only think of themselves - of course they get along famously with others like them. Their ethics are a convenience based on situations or their mood. Their emotion is irrational and unpredictable because it's either overly raw or overly staged for effect. (Ok, I have, or currently do, resemble all or some of those, but at least I'm working on it.)

Case in point, the person to whom you send an email, then have an actual face-to-face conversation with them that informs, questions, answers or otherwise deals with the email you sent - then, and usually days later, they send you an email in response to your first email, as if you never had the conversation. 'What Up'? If you don't know how to use the technology, DON'T - and especially don't substitute a virtual event for a real-life one when the difference is so very blurred for you.

And so endeth the lesson.

People...

"Isn't there a spray or cream for that?"

I pride myself in being the kind of person who... ummm... well... OK, I don't know what kind of person I pride myself in being exactly, but I do know what kind of person I pride myself in NOT being.

Case in point, the person who weasles their way into everyone's business and then spreads rumors couched in concerns as if they were saintly. 'What Up' with people like that? One of them just came by and expressed her concern about a co-worker who sits near her. It wasn't concern, it was an attempt to pump me for information about the situation because she's probably not getting much from her cube-neighbor. She knows just enough to appear to be on the inside track but is so transparent I can see the knife behind her back. Does she not realize that? I'd snap at her, but I don't want to be a part of tomorrows headlines.

Case in point, the person who thinks they know stuff and nods in the middle of your sentence in an effort to prove to you that they know the stuff you're explaining to them. 'What Up' with people like that? Why is it that I'm always the lucky one in a conversation wtih them?

More after I deal with something... again...