Honesty
OK, first, let's get this out of the way. No excuses for the gap in my posts, only reasons. The last weeks of school, a busy summer full of family, home improvement projects and job hunting are my only rationale. As always, it's not because I haven't had anything to say - I've just actually been saying it, in person, rather than virtually.
For example, when a fellow teacher yells at me in front of a parent after not telling me what time we were to meet, instead of venting here for all of you, I told her what I would have written - that I didn't want anything to do with her until she managed an apology. Since she doesn't manage an apology often, I knew what I was in for. Now, after what I'm sure was political pressure from her, I'm looking for another teaching job.
In that vein, and following several interviews for a teaching job this summer, I'm faced with the question - is honesty, warts and all, akin to professional suicide? Is that the world we live in? Need I gloss myself over in an effort to get a job? That's not the marriage I want, it's not the relationship I want with my children, family or friends. Sure, I could - and have - but why can't we aspire to a more genuine path without fear of reprisal, loss of popularity, or anything else.
When my family faces 'underemployment' and all that comes with it - is it wrong of me to add to the pressure by being forthright, having integrity, and stating facts plainly. Does my idealism get in the way of the realism we face? I really hope not, after all, I'm just trying to do the right and ethical thing.
Feel free to comment, not like anyone is really reading this - but do know that I realize the weight due the comments of my dear wife, and the lessons learned by my children, and the incomparable ethic of God - will be my ultimate guide.
2 Comments:
Surprise, there is at least one person reading your blog. I jumped in here one day. I bookmarded you because I lived in Tualitin long time ago.
I'm sorry to hear about your job. I do believe you are right though in being honesty, unfortunately the world is not an honest place. I commend you on keeping your integrity. Keep it up and post often.
It's been a long time since I stopped by, Ken. I do try to check in on you from time to time. =) Congratulations on your growing family!
You have faced this situation before. I faced it. I did much the same thing you did and in the end, I too wound up looking for another job.
I learned from that experience there is a time to fight and a time to walk away. Being open and honest with someone who can get you fired may make -you- feel better, but in the end, it accomplishes very little - except your quick exit.
However, that you would choose to be honest is a quality deserving admiration and the fact that you were in the right is not diminished. My only advice would be that sometimes, walking away knowing you are "the better person" is far more rewarding than getting into an angry confrontation. God is watching, after all.
I for one, can say that I took a lesson from you a long time ago and decided to be honest. It's a difficult road to follow, but I haven't looked back since, and I continue to try to hold myself to that standard.
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